Love is beautiful isn't? It's not an inanimate feeling but an action that is visible and real to its recipients- you KNOW IT, you can FEEL IT and you can PRACTICALLY TOUCH IT. It is such a joy to love and be loved in return, that is why the world is constantly seeking love. Unfortunately many are looking in the wrong places. In the words of the Late Pastor Bimbo Odukoya of Fountain of Life church,Lagos Nigeria LOVE IS WORK and I dare to add "commitment to work". These days, most people want the trappings of love but are not ready to put in the work that makes love worth all the work. A lot of couples exert energy and huge finances on their weddings but bolt at the first sign of trouble in paradise-HOW SAD. Its no wonder the world is riddled with divorces and single parenting is an accepted life style statement(I don't mean for those who are accidental single mums and dads). The other day, I even came across a website that offers DIY divorce services...wetin man eye no dey see for this world. marriage vows now has an escape clause "for better for stay, for worse for go" (pls ignore my grammar that's how I heard the vows in a movie). So given the warped attitude towards the marriage covenant, I am always excited to see couples who stay married and IN LOVE. Its my darling friend Uwa's marriage anniversary today and I'm so excited. I've wanted to do a post on Uwa for a long time but never got round to it so this epoch celebration is a welcomed opportunity to do just that. The first day she walked into the newsroom at my former work place, I knew there was something different about her. She had on a bright red lipstick- her signature lip colour-and exuded confidence. Her red lipstick said a lot about her- strong,sexy, fearless, bold, shrewd and very smart. I privately call her IRON LADY because she's never afraid to voice her opinions or bare her claws if the situation warrants it. Yes! the iron lady could fight dirty if pushed to it..so BEWARE!! However beneath the armour lies a very soft and loving heart. I caught a glimpse of this hidden part the day I found out she was married and that was the beginning of a never ending flow of "sweetness" lol. She unashamedly calls her husband SWEETNESS everywhere and at any given chance in fact I don't even know his name or even thinks he has a name anymore..lol. It takes a woman that is confidently in love to boldly declare that love both in private and in public...I GO LOVE OH. It also takes a strong woman to nurture love without giving up. YOU MY FRIEND ARE VERY STRONG. That sweetness that started eight years ago is still exuding goodness today and will forever. Happy anniversary IRON LADY.
Showing posts with label Happy Marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Happy Marriage. Show all posts
Tuesday, 25 February 2014
Happy Marriage Anniversary IRON LADY
Love is beautiful isn't? It's not an inanimate feeling but an action that is visible and real to its recipients- you KNOW IT, you can FEEL IT and you can PRACTICALLY TOUCH IT. It is such a joy to love and be loved in return, that is why the world is constantly seeking love. Unfortunately many are looking in the wrong places. In the words of the Late Pastor Bimbo Odukoya of Fountain of Life church,Lagos Nigeria LOVE IS WORK and I dare to add "commitment to work". These days, most people want the trappings of love but are not ready to put in the work that makes love worth all the work. A lot of couples exert energy and huge finances on their weddings but bolt at the first sign of trouble in paradise-HOW SAD. Its no wonder the world is riddled with divorces and single parenting is an accepted life style statement(I don't mean for those who are accidental single mums and dads). The other day, I even came across a website that offers DIY divorce services...wetin man eye no dey see for this world. marriage vows now has an escape clause "for better for stay, for worse for go" (pls ignore my grammar that's how I heard the vows in a movie). So given the warped attitude towards the marriage covenant, I am always excited to see couples who stay married and IN LOVE. Its my darling friend Uwa's marriage anniversary today and I'm so excited. I've wanted to do a post on Uwa for a long time but never got round to it so this epoch celebration is a welcomed opportunity to do just that. The first day she walked into the newsroom at my former work place, I knew there was something different about her. She had on a bright red lipstick- her signature lip colour-and exuded confidence. Her red lipstick said a lot about her- strong,sexy, fearless, bold, shrewd and very smart. I privately call her IRON LADY because she's never afraid to voice her opinions or bare her claws if the situation warrants it. Yes! the iron lady could fight dirty if pushed to it..so BEWARE!! However beneath the armour lies a very soft and loving heart. I caught a glimpse of this hidden part the day I found out she was married and that was the beginning of a never ending flow of "sweetness" lol. She unashamedly calls her husband SWEETNESS everywhere and at any given chance in fact I don't even know his name or even thinks he has a name anymore..lol. It takes a woman that is confidently in love to boldly declare that love both in private and in public...I GO LOVE OH. It also takes a strong woman to nurture love without giving up. YOU MY FRIEND ARE VERY STRONG. That sweetness that started eight years ago is still exuding goodness today and will forever. Happy anniversary IRON LADY.
Sunday, 5 September 2010
A beautiful marriage? Yes!
I am not the best person to give relationship advice as I've never truly had a memorable one. But i do know what kind of relationship i desire in future. A beautiful, fulfilling, purpose driven,joy filled marriage. Despite the rising number of divorces, i still believe that it is possible to have a beautiful marriage. No single person is flawless as we live in a sinful world but it is our ability to prop each other in moments of weakness, encourage and forgive that forms the foundation of a happy home.
As an individual how fulfilled are you? how whole are you. A lot of people still go about with garbage from past relationships and dump at the feet of their partners expecting miracles to happen. It can never! It takes an emotionally healthy person to have a healthy relationship. An emotionally crippled person will only drag the other person down. Your partner can never complete you, only God can occupy that position. Husbands and wives can only complement each other.
I am an ardent exponent of "healing breaks". There should be a period of re-evaluation following the collapse of any relationship so that past errors would not repeat themselves.If its worth having then it is worth waiting for(Jacob worked 14 years for the hand of Rachel. He never saw it as work. I'm sure for every aching arm, pain in the joint or work related stress the thought of Rachel kept him going.Jacob had a goal so he never minded Laban's deceit.
For any relationship to work it must be goal driven and the foundation must be right.
I had a shocking conversation with a close friend yesterday and i truly felt sorry for her after hearing her warped perception of what to expect from men in a marriage.
She held my hand, looked into my eyes and said only a fool will not expect a man to cheat in a marriage. I felt sad for her cause going into marriage with such a premise is a recipe for disaster.
Of course i expect my man to make mistakes cause we live in a sin riddled world but without trust,relationships are doomed to fail. As men and women we've got roles to play and no one said it would be easy. Both persons ought to have a huge level of commitment and endeavour to have a beautiful relationship, that is why the foundation has to be right. A successful marriage must be founded on the word of God. Moreover, if a man has the fear of God in him, he would not deliberately hurt his partner and vice versa! If you fear God, you will honour your vows, respect your partner and do every thing possible to be the best you can ever be. I love late pastor Bimbo Odukoya's definition of marriage. She said marriage is work! You must work on having a successful marriage. Thank God we have the holy spirit to help us. These days I'm not ashamed to confess my inadequacies to him. He is there to help. we are not meant to walk this road alone. Daily challenges alone will cripple us without the help of the holy spirit.
To have a beautiful relationship you have to invest in yourself and your partner. you invest time, emotion,love.
You must be ready to bare it all-be naked and not ashamed! Adam and Eve never noticed their nakedness until sin crept into their relationship with God. Past mistakes, hurts and failures has made it impossible for couples to expose their fears, dreams and desires with each other out of fear of being hurt or rejected. I am guilty of these as well but I'm learning to take every day one step at a time. I've got this lovely guy in my life and I'm determined to have a beautiful relationship with him(we are not officially dating yet) I am determined not to allow my past experience hold me back but to trust God all the way and i ain't afraid to work for what i want. The goal is to yield my marriage/relationship into the porter's able hands to mould and guide for His glory.
A successful marriage must celebrate and glorify God.So a beautiful marriage is possible cos with God all things are possible.
As an individual how fulfilled are you? how whole are you. A lot of people still go about with garbage from past relationships and dump at the feet of their partners expecting miracles to happen. It can never! It takes an emotionally healthy person to have a healthy relationship. An emotionally crippled person will only drag the other person down. Your partner can never complete you, only God can occupy that position. Husbands and wives can only complement each other.
I am an ardent exponent of "healing breaks". There should be a period of re-evaluation following the collapse of any relationship so that past errors would not repeat themselves.If its worth having then it is worth waiting for(Jacob worked 14 years for the hand of Rachel. He never saw it as work. I'm sure for every aching arm, pain in the joint or work related stress the thought of Rachel kept him going.Jacob had a goal so he never minded Laban's deceit.
For any relationship to work it must be goal driven and the foundation must be right.
I had a shocking conversation with a close friend yesterday and i truly felt sorry for her after hearing her warped perception of what to expect from men in a marriage.
She held my hand, looked into my eyes and said only a fool will not expect a man to cheat in a marriage. I felt sad for her cause going into marriage with such a premise is a recipe for disaster.
Of course i expect my man to make mistakes cause we live in a sin riddled world but without trust,relationships are doomed to fail. As men and women we've got roles to play and no one said it would be easy. Both persons ought to have a huge level of commitment and endeavour to have a beautiful relationship, that is why the foundation has to be right. A successful marriage must be founded on the word of God. Moreover, if a man has the fear of God in him, he would not deliberately hurt his partner and vice versa! If you fear God, you will honour your vows, respect your partner and do every thing possible to be the best you can ever be. I love late pastor Bimbo Odukoya's definition of marriage. She said marriage is work! You must work on having a successful marriage. Thank God we have the holy spirit to help us. These days I'm not ashamed to confess my inadequacies to him. He is there to help. we are not meant to walk this road alone. Daily challenges alone will cripple us without the help of the holy spirit.
To have a beautiful relationship you have to invest in yourself and your partner. you invest time, emotion,love.
You must be ready to bare it all-be naked and not ashamed! Adam and Eve never noticed their nakedness until sin crept into their relationship with God. Past mistakes, hurts and failures has made it impossible for couples to expose their fears, dreams and desires with each other out of fear of being hurt or rejected. I am guilty of these as well but I'm learning to take every day one step at a time. I've got this lovely guy in my life and I'm determined to have a beautiful relationship with him(we are not officially dating yet) I am determined not to allow my past experience hold me back but to trust God all the way and i ain't afraid to work for what i want. The goal is to yield my marriage/relationship into the porter's able hands to mould and guide for His glory.
A successful marriage must celebrate and glorify God.So a beautiful marriage is possible cos with God all things are possible.
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